tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2743746633913926150.post8443214251422866586..comments2024-03-12T07:00:44.143-04:00Comments on CHILDMYTHS: Psychozoology in the Courtroom: Dodo Birds, Woozles, Heffalumps, and ParentingJean Mercerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14619393019771381980noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2743746633913926150.post-76388712585590444922014-04-10T08:27:41.348-04:002014-04-10T08:27:41.348-04:00O)f course I remember you, you and your butter!
B...O)f course I remember you, you and your butter! <br />But I don't know where you can read about those kids. Do tell me if you find out, especially R.D. Laing's. B. Russell's were no doubt cared for by nannies, if he had any.Jean Mercerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14619393019771381980noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2743746633913926150.post-46174381183530163772014-04-09T22:59:10.980-04:002014-04-09T22:59:10.980-04:00well . . I was buttering you up a little. Most pro...well . . I was buttering you up a little. Most pros are pretty messed up too.<br /><br />Speaking of which do you know where I can read the stories of Bertrand Russell's and R.D. Laing's kids?Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14662691953403328653noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2743746633913926150.post-20984185969963410622014-04-09T22:57:01.475-04:002014-04-09T22:57:01.475-04:00Ah, I knew you remembered me . . .
;)Ah, I knew you remembered me . . . <br /><br />;)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14662691953403328653noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2743746633913926150.post-70515148948932554102014-04-09T08:18:38.218-04:002014-04-09T08:18:38.218-04:00You may well be right about this, although I hope ...You may well be right about this, although I hope it's a continuum rather than just two groups. It's certainly true that many people get hold of specific mantras, about attachment for example, and just keep on mouthing them. But I'm not completely convinced that what they do is much influenced by what they say. People usually just muddle along in dealing with their children, the same way they do with their spouses and their jobs, and most of the time it works out not too badly. The thing is, just as soon as parents get to understand the stage their child is in-- the child changes! Parents are always playing catch-up.<br /><br />To my mind, the greatest obstacle to thinking clearly about child-rearing is the tendency to assume a single cause and a single effect for each aspect of development. "Tain't like that, though.Jean Mercerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14619393019771381980noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2743746633913926150.post-50912275865161939602014-04-09T01:29:40.428-04:002014-04-09T01:29:40.428-04:00yeah, but among parents, non-professionals, all th...yeah, but among parents, non-professionals, all their theories can sound like wild guesses. People make connections between unrelated phenomena, and talk about common things as though they were unrelated . . . with all the talking I do online on the topic of child-rearing, the things I hear so often seem to show that it's all memorization of terminology they have never analyzed . . . like parrots, they've memorized the noises, but they're not really conversing . . . oh, never mind. I'm sorry. I'm a little frustrated ATM. But really, there are two groups of people, the educated, the pros, VS the breeders, and the breeders pay very little attention. Breeding is a largely unconscious activity. I guess, to co-opt Graham Chapman, "you'll never get any breeding done if you go around thinking all the time . . ."Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14662691953403328653noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2743746633913926150.post-7498901490800960482014-04-06T20:15:48.611-04:002014-04-06T20:15:48.611-04:00I don't think it's so much that underlying...I don't think it's so much that underlying principles are unknown, as that people don't agree on what they want the outcome to be. Also, they fail to take into consideration that similar experiences will have different effects on children with different temperaments or differences in other factors.Jean Mercerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14619393019771381980noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2743746633913926150.post-75451266696958547592014-04-06T16:47:40.002-04:002014-04-06T16:47:40.002-04:00There is so little logic and understanding of what...There is so little logic and understanding of what parents do or what they should do that any scientific sounding crap can be as convincing as any other. It's like when we miss a principle in a subject, a major, causative one and are left simply with memorization of a list of effects in lieu of an understanding. Sadly, it seems that the underlying principles of child-rearing are unknown, and we can't extrapolate anything forward or backward, and so people are subject to any sort of pseudo-science at all . . . Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14662691953403328653noreply@blogger.com