tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2743746633913926150.post4296078519435334620..comments2024-03-12T07:00:44.143-04:00Comments on CHILDMYTHS: They Only Do It to Annoy: Adoption and High-Control ParentingJean Mercerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14619393019771381980noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2743746633913926150.post-41120708217525732692012-12-17T09:31:19.038-05:002012-12-17T09:31:19.038-05:00Oh no (she said faintly)-- are there really Traum...Oh no (she said faintly)-- are there really Traumageddon Mamas? <br /><br />I tell you, I don't feel at home in this world any more.Jean Mercerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14619393019771381980noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2743746633913926150.post-45968660395188244572012-12-17T00:31:06.851-05:002012-12-17T00:31:06.851-05:00Why, yes, good plan. And since so many in the U.S....Why, yes, good plan. And since so many in the U.S. are already prepared with their bug-out bags, we could easily become our own Zombie Apocalypse (and put all that prepper stuff to good use): all of us armed to the teeth, fearful and paranoid, and trigger ready. Children too, above and below the age of reason. What an excellently barbaric country. (BTW, did you know that there is a subgroup of Trauma Mamas who are hard-core preppers? Makes me want to poke my eyes out with their home-dried beef jerky.)Marianne MIltonnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2743746633913926150.post-81428116511925369322012-12-16T09:04:40.827-05:002012-12-16T09:04:40.827-05:00Perhaps they'd like to arm the children too-- ...Perhaps they'd like to arm the children too-- what a dilemma, because although the "good" ones could shoot the bad guys the "bad" ones could shoot--- you know who. I suppose they'd feel this should be a matter of parental decision, as it was in the case of Ms. Lanza. Jean Mercerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14619393019771381980noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2743746633913926150.post-46245217821127555072012-12-16T03:39:08.479-05:002012-12-16T03:39:08.479-05:00While the rest of the parents in the U.S. are hold...While the rest of the parents in the U.S. are holding their children a little closer this week after the slaughter of 1st graders in Newtown, Connecticut, those Trauma Mamas who believe that their "RADlings" are one short step away from murdering them in their sleep will likely be increasing their suspicion, surveillance, and microscopic control of their children. It doesn't help that the Trauma Mamas are fueled by titles such as Beth Thomas' "Dandelion on My Pillow, Butcher Knife Beneath." Let's hope that none of those Mamas does anything truly heinous to protect themselves in this moment of cultural panic, because much of the country is discussing the value of now arming kindergarten and elementary school teachers against further murderers in their midst. I'm not religious, but I have an overwhelming urge to say, "Bless the children."Marianne Miltonnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2743746633913926150.post-31548538485417765832012-11-11T09:42:37.493-05:002012-11-11T09:42:37.493-05:00Regrettably, the caseworkers as well as the parent...Regrettably, the caseworkers as well as the parents seem to believe what they want to believe.Jean Mercerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14619393019771381980noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2743746633913926150.post-15446290940732566932012-11-10T20:26:24.176-05:002012-11-10T20:26:24.176-05:00". . . but the results of a belief system tha...". . . but the results of a belief system that's been promulgated in adoption circles."<br /><br />Vulnerable too often equals gullible. <br />Can we also say that people tend to believe what they want to believe?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2743746633913926150.post-42186922119871416282012-11-10T08:11:51.840-05:002012-11-10T08:11:51.840-05:00Oops, this didn't come out so readers can acce...Oops, this didn't come out so readers can access it. It's an article by Andrea Johnson at www.minotdailynews.com. Andrea understands the issues here-- unlike many other journalists.<br /><br />Thanks very much, Sunday, I hadn't seen it.Jean Mercerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14619393019771381980noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2743746633913926150.post-20540974520063568132012-11-09T21:48:18.622-05:002012-11-09T21:48:18.622-05:00i am sure you have already seen this article in th...<a href="http://www.minotdailynews.com/page/blogs.detail/display/885/Abusive-parenting-techniques-to-treat-reactive-attachment-disorder.html" rel="nofollow">i am sure you have already seen this article in the Minot Daily News Abusive parenting techniques to treat reactive attachment disorder<br /></a> Sunday Koffron Taylorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00859347065249826781noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2743746633913926150.post-74416177922557415202012-11-09T09:31:58.878-05:002012-11-09T09:31:58.878-05:00And so, when she's crying with pain following ...And so, when she's crying with pain following an injury, people should demand that she state her wishes in full sentences, right? It would be awfully bad for her character if they didn't.Jean Mercerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14619393019771381980noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2743746633913926150.post-44706763770349405752012-11-08T21:03:47.168-05:002012-11-08T21:03:47.168-05:00... and they only don't talk with their parent...... and they only don't talk with their parents, especially with their mom, so everything else thinks she's nuts when she complains about the gibberish; only other Trauma Mamas get it, and understand why she won't respond to her 2-year-old unless he uses complete sentences. He gets away with using only 2-word requests at daycare ("want food"), but that's because they hate me and think I'm mean to him, and so they baby him, which won't do him any good in the long run. Fortunately, I think I've told them enough about how he behaves at home that they're starting to get the picture; at least that's what they tell me. Who knows, though. You know how well RADishes manipulate people with their superficial charm, and they so easily triangulate everyone, pitting me against the world. But I'm holding the line; I know what's best. No one else except Trauma Mamas know the dangers my child faces down the road. Oh ... I hear my son whining and crying now, but I'm just going to sit here calmly and wait for him to tell me what he wants in full sentences. I am just not going to reward baby talk; that's just giving in to his manipulativeness. And you know, adults who are manipulative just end up as dangerous, frightening people with no real future. I do my best for my son.Marianne Miltonnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2743746633913926150.post-23384296052425501512012-11-08T11:33:40.090-05:002012-11-08T11:33:40.090-05:00Actually they're born knowing how to talk, but...Actually they're born knowing how to talk, but they conceal the fact just to exploit their parents--Jean Mercerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14619393019771381980noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2743746633913926150.post-9509204238486031732012-11-08T11:16:51.593-05:002012-11-08T11:16:51.593-05:00Silly me, I thought chattering was one of those th...Silly me, I thought chattering was one of those things kids just do.theorclairnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2743746633913926150.post-50123863632876160482012-11-08T09:31:48.667-05:002012-11-08T09:31:48.667-05:00And there will be a new one every day until we fig...And there will be a new one every day until we figure out that these are not coincidences or crazy people, but the results of a belief system that's been promulgated in adoption circles.<br /><br />But thanks for this one! Jean Mercerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14619393019771381980noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2743746633913926150.post-15009768121784260442012-11-08T09:30:03.526-05:002012-11-08T09:30:03.526-05:00The "attachment therapy" group makes a p...The "attachment therapy" group makes a point of "chattering","nonsense questions", and poor speech articulation as symptoms of RAD, making it easy for adoptive parents to interpret any genuine speech or cognitive problems as "done to annoy".Jean Mercerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14619393019771381980noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2743746633913926150.post-7006993595025181912012-11-08T01:22:09.733-05:002012-11-08T01:22:09.733-05:00Apparently, speech delays can also be useful for a...Apparently, speech delays can also be useful for annoying people, especially your long-suffering adoptive mom:<br /><br />[Yet another Facebook post from a Trauma Mama] "Being with my 11 year old son is exhausting. He is so needy and it is like having a giant toddler with an attitude. He becomes excessively needy and gets mad if i don't give him all my attention every moment he's with me. He does things on purpose to get negative attention no matter how much attention i have already given him. He will pretend like he doesn't know how to say things. He has a speech impediment but it's not that he's not able to say the words, he has lazy speech patterns. A lot of times he says stuff wrong on purpose. Will come up with nonsense questions. Basically it's constant and im exhausted. I wish i didn't feel that way but he exhausts me and i feel like the life is sucked out of me."<br /><br />Sigh ...<br /><br />Marianne Miltonnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2743746633913926150.post-76884009212872471132012-11-07T23:33:22.049-05:002012-11-07T23:33:22.049-05:00Here is a new one from today.
http://www.kcci.co...Here is a new one from today. <br /><br />http://www.kcci.com/news/central-iowa/Parents-locked-adopted-children-in-basement-cell-police-say/-/9357080/17317368/-/rbj1v/-/index.html#.UJsZHgiV2_Y.facebookSunday Koffron Taylorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00859347065249826781noreply@blogger.com